Hello! Surprise! I am 7 months pregnant and feeling good. ^_^
I know a lot of women have had terrible things said to them when they are pregnant. This is not my case. I love seeing everyone's eyes light up when they talk about the upcoming baby. Everyone-- grandparents, cashiers, strangers.
Yesterday, Tony at Precision Tune in Greenville Blvd opened up-- his wife's best friend passed away and they adopted all of her 6 children. The oldest adopted son just had a baby. He said when he came into the room he could see his son's eyes starting to tear up, which made him want to tear up.
Friday, October 30, 2015
Tuesday, February 11, 2014
Fixation on youthful appearance
Isn't it a shame that we (societal we) put so much effort, emphasis, and celebration into youth (looks) when that is a mere small portion of our existence?
Think about all that encompasses your life: your family, friends, studies, faith, work, hobbies. How much of that is appearance? And how long does youthful appearance last? I'm not saying not to find joy in the ephemerality of a delicious meal, the sensuous pleasure of a nice long walk on a sunny day. But think about if we (societal we) put as much effort, emphasis, and celebration into the different stages and aspects of our lives. A teen girl's prom is to be as celebrated as much as a middle aged woman's accomplishments.
When I have a daughter I would like for her to look forward to the different stages in her life, not just high school and college, not just getting married and having babies. I'm not saying these aren't wonderful stages in our lives, but there's more, right? There's career advancement and learning life lessons, there's fun times and being playful until they die, if they want to be. On top of my head, I can only think of Betty White as a positive role model of someone of advanced age who still lives and has fun and makes life happen, as opposed to let life happen to them.
Think about all that encompasses your life: your family, friends, studies, faith, work, hobbies. How much of that is appearance? And how long does youthful appearance last? I'm not saying not to find joy in the ephemerality of a delicious meal, the sensuous pleasure of a nice long walk on a sunny day. But think about if we (societal we) put as much effort, emphasis, and celebration into the different stages and aspects of our lives. A teen girl's prom is to be as celebrated as much as a middle aged woman's accomplishments.
When I have a daughter I would like for her to look forward to the different stages in her life, not just high school and college, not just getting married and having babies. I'm not saying these aren't wonderful stages in our lives, but there's more, right? There's career advancement and learning life lessons, there's fun times and being playful until they die, if they want to be. On top of my head, I can only think of Betty White as a positive role model of someone of advanced age who still lives and has fun and makes life happen, as opposed to let life happen to them.
Thursday, May 17, 2012
More ramblings about fake modesty
Forgot I had a blog or something. Won't promise to keep it updated, because I guess it's better not to make a promise than to make one and break it, right? ...Though I do remember enjoying writing. :)
Came to the website because I saw someone ranting about being modest and thought I had already written something about it (...and I had. Twice. Well, kind of. First one was about equating sexuality with dirtiness, the second quotes a french professor talking about so-called female modesty). It's not like I'm going to change someone's mind, or whatever, it just irks me that people are so uptight and black and white and narrow minded.
Bottom line is this: while I agree that there are social norms which establish that if you dress like a ho you'll be treated like a ho (not necessarily agree with the social norms, but they are what they are for now), I also think that men get away with it way too easy. Gentlemen, women are not just eye candy, they're not for you to ogle, etc.
That said, and realizing how incredibly lucky I am, if my husband is being respectful, and another woman, having the liberty to wear whatever she pleases, does, and my husband gets aroused, it is not the freakin' end of the world. I don't really equate that with lust, as I think of lust as actually pursuing something in your mind, as opposed to having merely a physical reaction (often times in spite of yourself... kinda like sneezing is not a sign of you being a pollen hater). I do not have the perfect body (unfortunately, the being asked if I am pregnant because I have a fat belly has not yet stopped) but I would hope and pray that my marriage is based on more than just primal (biological, even) instincts or we'd be in deep trouble. Seriously. Think about it, if you fear your husband will go after some other lady just because she's wearing something skanky... there are more issues than her wearing something skanky (for example, the fact that your husband is so shallow that looks matter more than content).
Came to the website because I saw someone ranting about being modest and thought I had already written something about it (...and I had. Twice. Well, kind of. First one was about equating sexuality with dirtiness, the second quotes a french professor talking about so-called female modesty). It's not like I'm going to change someone's mind, or whatever, it just irks me that people are so uptight and black and white and narrow minded.
Bottom line is this: while I agree that there are social norms which establish that if you dress like a ho you'll be treated like a ho (not necessarily agree with the social norms, but they are what they are for now), I also think that men get away with it way too easy. Gentlemen, women are not just eye candy, they're not for you to ogle, etc.
That said, and realizing how incredibly lucky I am, if my husband is being respectful, and another woman, having the liberty to wear whatever she pleases, does, and my husband gets aroused, it is not the freakin' end of the world. I don't really equate that with lust, as I think of lust as actually pursuing something in your mind, as opposed to having merely a physical reaction (often times in spite of yourself... kinda like sneezing is not a sign of you being a pollen hater). I do not have the perfect body (unfortunately, the being asked if I am pregnant because I have a fat belly has not yet stopped) but I would hope and pray that my marriage is based on more than just primal (biological, even) instincts or we'd be in deep trouble. Seriously. Think about it, if you fear your husband will go after some other lady just because she's wearing something skanky... there are more issues than her wearing something skanky (for example, the fact that your husband is so shallow that looks matter more than content).
Monday, November 29, 2010
Looking forward to my Xmas trip back to GVegas
for the following reasons:
1. seeing family and friends
2. food-- lo-yo, parker's bbq, pita pit {we don't have a pita pit. how dare lafayette not have a pita pit? it's inhumane and entirely lacking in any sort of intellectual curiosity or capability. horrendous, i tell you!}
3. warmer weather, woo hoo! my face won't freeze off!
4. knowing my way around town instead of having a "half an hour detour" because i got lost (oops)
5. streets that aren't crappy and whose lines actually glow and you don't have to half guess where they are (are they worn out? did they forget the glow in the dark paint? the world will never know)
6. people in motorcycles who wear helmets (i don't care if it's because they have to or because they care for their safety, i'm just content knowing they're actually wearing them)
7. CHRISTMAS!
8. warmer weather!
9. i was going to say going to the Newman Center, but I think Fr. Bill is off... drat. i really miss having mass in a small setting in an introspective format. oh wells!
10. I know I mentioned all my food stuffs in number two, but this deserves it's own bullet- Saeng Thai House has re-opened downtown as Thai 360. Greenvillians, please revere this wonderful place. it will not disappoint. it better stay open for business, as it is great encouragement to come back to Greenville.
that is all, much love!
1. seeing family and friends
2. food-- lo-yo, parker's bbq, pita pit {we don't have a pita pit. how dare lafayette not have a pita pit? it's inhumane and entirely lacking in any sort of intellectual curiosity or capability. horrendous, i tell you!}
3. warmer weather, woo hoo! my face won't freeze off!
4. knowing my way around town instead of having a "half an hour detour" because i got lost (oops)
5. streets that aren't crappy and whose lines actually glow and you don't have to half guess where they are (are they worn out? did they forget the glow in the dark paint? the world will never know)
6. people in motorcycles who wear helmets (i don't care if it's because they have to or because they care for their safety, i'm just content knowing they're actually wearing them)
7. CHRISTMAS!
8. warmer weather!
9. i was going to say going to the Newman Center, but I think Fr. Bill is off... drat. i really miss having mass in a small setting in an introspective format. oh wells!
10. I know I mentioned all my food stuffs in number two, but this deserves it's own bullet- Saeng Thai House has re-opened downtown as Thai 360. Greenvillians, please revere this wonderful place. it will not disappoint. it better stay open for business, as it is great encouragement to come back to Greenville.
that is all, much love!
Saturday, December 12, 2009
Uno de mi calle me ha dicho
que tiene un amigo que dice,
conocer a un tipo
que un día fue feliz.
(trans: Someone in my street told me that they have a friend that said to know a guy who was happy one day.)
I just wanted to make a self note that I have been fully happy lately, and for more than just one day. I live a wonderful life-- I love my husband and our life together is harmonious and fulfilling. He likes to play and makes me laugh. I cannot complain about work-- it is not overly hard and it provides enough money to eat, have shelter, and "buy a little flower," as the Japanese proverb says.
Loved ones are healthy and safe.
Really, can't complain. In fact, don't let me.
que tiene un amigo que dice,
conocer a un tipo
que un día fue feliz.
(trans: Someone in my street told me that they have a friend that said to know a guy who was happy one day.)
I just wanted to make a self note that I have been fully happy lately, and for more than just one day. I live a wonderful life-- I love my husband and our life together is harmonious and fulfilling. He likes to play and makes me laugh. I cannot complain about work-- it is not overly hard and it provides enough money to eat, have shelter, and "buy a little flower," as the Japanese proverb says.
Loved ones are healthy and safe.
Really, can't complain. In fact, don't let me.
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MIGGY!
I love you, I am proud of you, and although I told you in person, I wish to remind you again-- you are the one who brought light-heartedness and laughter into my life. ♫ Gracias por existir ♫
Here is your next (AND LAST!) clue:
Jon LaJoie, October 27, 2009
>read the COMMENTS ;)
Here is your next (AND LAST!) clue:
Jon LaJoie, October 27, 2009
>read the COMMENTS ;)
Saturday, October 03, 2009
It's so easy to make me tear up
If you want to inspire me, make me cry, show me that arts can unite people, tell an important story, and that humanity is progressing-- because we are investing our time in imagination and creation rather than destruction.
Such an example is this--
The giant puppett of a little girl searching for her uncle
or this:
The Cellist of Sarajevo
Such an example is this--
The giant puppett of a little girl searching for her uncle
commemorates the years of division in both the city and the country. (Berlin, Germany)
or this:
The Cellist of Sarajevo
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